Dear My Real Review,
My 14 month old daughter was always quite clingy with me, and I am getting very nervous about going back to work in a few weeks. I know separation anxiety is common but I am concerned! Is there anything I can do to help her?
Signed,
Anxious Mama
Dear Anxious Mama,
Dealing with separation anxiety can be an emotional struggle for all members of the family, but rest assured that it is indeed a phase and this too shall pass!
Separation anxiety is a normal emotional stage of development that starts when babies begin to understand that things and people exist even when they’re not present. Babies can show signs of separation anxiety as early as 6 or 7 months, but the crisis age for most babies peaks between 10 to 18 months.
Separation anxiety is most common when you (or your partner) leave your child to go to work or run an errand. Another common time for a baby to experience separation anxiety is night time, even though they are safely snuggled in bed with you close by.
In general, separation anxiety usually eases by the time babies are 24 months old.
In the mean time, here are a few strategies to hopefully help your little one through this time:
While around your own home, announce to your child when you are leaving a room, where you’re going, and that you’ll be back. This way, your child will learn that everything will be okay when you’re gone for a minute or two, and that you always come back.
Speak to the childcare provider about your concerns; most often they will encourage you to come and spend some time with the group before you actually need to leave your child with them. You could also try leaving your child with them while you run some quick errands, then maybe try a half day, so When it comes time for the first full day, your daughter will already be comfortable with her new caregiver.
Remember to always say goodbye. Kiss and hug your baby when you leave and tell her where you’re going and when you’ll be back, but don’t prolong your goodbyes, also keep in mind that the sooner you leave, the sooner your little one will likely calm down.
Try not to cry or act upset if your baby starts crying – at least not while she can see you. When you return, your caregiver will probably tell you that your baby’s tears stopped before you were even out of the driveway.
Once you leave, leave. Repeated trips back into the house or daycare center to calm your baby will make it harder on you, your child, and the caregiver.
As with most things, this too shall pass, so rest assured that this won’t last forever, and in the meantime, enjoy the sweetness of knowing that to your child, you’re number one.
Love,
My Real Review
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